Self-Sabotaging Behaviors That Keep You From Earning What You’re Worth
Talk about GUILTY as charged! I know…..we all do it. No matter how successful you are, at one time or another you’ll fall into the self-sabotage trap. The price of admission is high and the cost to escape the trap expensive.
Your income will suffer.
Your self-esteem will plummet
Your confidence will find new lows.
Your creativity will slump.
The end result? Frustration. Burnout. Resentment (of your business). And yes, even more self-sabotaging behaviors. This downward spiral can quickly turn devastating, but stopping it is easy when you learn to recognize the symptoms.
Must I do it now? I want to explore time management in the future; but today let’s just focus on procrastination. Are you like me that used to get an assignment in school two months before it’s due but wait until the night before to complete it? And equally like me, in waiting you realize you could have done so much better if you had planned your time wisely. Fast forward to entrepreneurship, do you find yourself operating with the same behaviors. Did you mean to plan your social media content but didn’t and now you’re barely able to post quality content daily? Or maybe you were going to send a proposal to a potential new client, but waited too long?
These and other missed opportunities can often be blamed on simple procrastination, one of the most destructive habits we suffer from. Procrastination is what keeps us working late at night to make a deadline, costs us money in late fees, and even costs us business.
If you’re prone to procrastination, try these techniques to put an end to it:
Recognize your fear. What often keeps us stuck is simple fear. We’re afraid that even with that amazing coach we still won’t reach our goals, so we put off signing up. We’re afraid we’ll look bad when compared to other proposals, so we just don’t send one. Or, we’ve convinced ourselves that “everybody else” has all the luck and our efforts will not pay off. But if you want to be successful in business, you must learn to recognize and face your fears, then do the work anyway.
Visualize the life and business you desire. Imagine what it will be like to have that amazing business you’ve been dreaming about. Picture your ideal workday, daydream about that fabulous vacation you’ll take, and imagine VIP days with your ideal client. Go a step further, set your monthly income goal, write it down, and affirm it every single day.
Reward yourself. It’s okay to give yourself a little incentive for getting things done. Take yourself out to lunch; buy a new pair of shoes; take an afternoon off. Do what’s most likely to motivate you to power through your fears and take the next step.
Failing to Complete Your Projects
Be honest. How many half-written books, partially planned programs, and unfinished products are cluttering up your hard drive right now?
If you’re like a lot of entrepreneurs, the answer is probably several.
You started all of them with great enthusiasm. You planned out the modules or chapters, created the slide decks, and maybe even outlined the sales page. And then…you just stopped working on it.
Maybe you tell yourself that you’re too busy. Maybe you “need to do some more research.” Or maybe you simply lost interest. But the truth is, none of those are the real reason. For a lot of coaches, this self-sabotaging habit is actually a symptom of a lack of confidence, and it’s keeping you from the success you deserve.
Consider this: You cannot know the actual success rate of a program you’ve never finished, and you cannot improve upon something you’ve never completed. So rather than filling your hard drive with half-finished projects, power through and start releasing them—even if you believe they’re not perfect, and even if you think they’ll never sell. Simply put, feel the fear and just DO IT!
Now more than ever is the opportune time to release the projects you’ve procrastinated on and create momentum in your business.
What in the world does that mean? One of the biggest prognosticators of self sabotaging is mindset. Actually, I should have put this one first because it’s the biggest of them all and probably deserves a section by itself. Many of us self-sabotage our dreams due to negative messages constantly playing in our head. When you begin to replay every hurt, every failure, every situation that made you feel defeated and useless, then you are allowing sabotage to invade your own conscious and take captive your dreams. Whatever happened, HAPPENED! Now, move on. Affirm yourself, affirm your dreams and begin to believe that you can do it. You can accomplish it and you can bring it to fruition. Look at every single “failure” along the way as a magnificent learning opportunity to a better you.
I’m excited about you and your growth and movement toward your dreams. Let’s conquer together.